Finding the ideal love is like trying to find a perfectly symmetrical stone on the beach. It’s not easy. Even with so many possibilities, the task is more difficult than one would imagine. And the longer you look, the slimmer the odds of finding that perfect specimen may seem. Though some might appear somewhat perfect at a distance, upon closer inspection, it soon becomes apparent that they are not quite so.
That’s not to say that it’s downright impossible to find perfect specimens. They are indeed out there, but be forewarned that many years may pass between one discovery and the next.
Whether or not we realize it, we also search for physical symmetry in other human beings. Characteristic of good genes and general good health in nature, perfect symmetry in a mate would likely increase one’s chances of creating healthy offspring. No wonder we’re so drawn to people with beautifully symmetrical faces.
And yet, there is a certain charm and character attributable to the not-so-symmetrical. With perhaps an even stronger magnetism, especially where romantic love is concerned, we are drawn towards the imperfect. Why? One theory suggests that while our minds are pleasantly calmed by symmetry, they also quickly become bored with it. Intrigued by complexity, when faced with marginally flawed symmetry, our minds are perked and subconsciously go to work to try and figure out what’s causing the disparity.
Although the human body is symmetrical in so many ways, the shape of the human heart is not. Could that be a clue that perfection in matters of the heart was created to be elusive? If we are to achieve any semblance of perfection in love, like the rare round stones found sometimes on the beach, it’s only due to years of surviving the pounding waves and stormy seas. Now there’s something to ponder as we approach Valentine’s Day.
Text and images copyright Amy-Lynn Bell 2012





This bright yellow biomedical waste bucket caught my eye as it lay half buried in a sand dune in the salt marsh. I didn’t realize what was written on it until after I had pulled it out of the wet sand and was already carrying it towards the garbage can along the trail.





A couple of years ago, my friend Ruth brought me some shells from a trip she made back home to the south shore of Nova Scotia. Although she included some perfect specimens, some worn shells were also part of the collection that she had beautifully arranged in a large glass jar. When I decided to draw them one day, it was the worn shells that seemed most interesting. One shell in particular was just a skeleton of its former self , yet it proved to be the most appealing subject of all. It was one that I did not quickly grow tired of drawing over and over again. Why?
The vines on my house continue to cover up more and more of the ‘clean white’ siding. Though they look gnarly in the winter, during the summer, their green leaves are so refreshingly beautiful… perhaps even more so, because I know they won’t last. The grass withers, the flowers fade… Would something not be lost if the grass was always green and flowers were always in full bloom? Flower beds that are ‘still in the works’ hold the promise of new plantings and arrangements in the growing season ahead. I know this long, cold winter will make the sun and sea breezes feel even warmer as I’m hanging the laundry on the clothesline this summer.