Finding the ideal love is like trying to find a perfectly symmetrical stone on the beach. It’s not easy. Even with so many possibilities, the task is more difficult than one would imagine. And the longer you look, the slimmer the odds of finding that perfect specimen may seem. Though some might appear somewhat perfect at a distance, upon closer inspection, it soon becomes apparent that they are not quite so.
That’s not to say that it’s downright impossible to find perfect specimens. They are indeed out there, but be forewarned that many years may pass between one discovery and the next.
Whether or not we realize it, we also search for physical symmetry in other human beings. Characteristic of good genes and general good health in nature, perfect symmetry in a mate would likely increase one’s chances of creating healthy offspring. No wonder we’re so drawn to people with beautifully symmetrical faces.
And yet, there is a certain charm and character attributable to the not-so-symmetrical. With perhaps an even stronger magnetism, especially where romantic love is concerned, we are drawn towards the imperfect. Why? One theory suggests that while our minds are pleasantly calmed by symmetry, they also quickly become bored with it. Intrigued by complexity, when faced with marginally flawed symmetry, our minds are perked and subconsciously go to work to try and figure out what’s causing the disparity.
Although the human body is symmetrical in so many ways, the shape of the human heart is not. Could that be a clue that perfection in matters of the heart was created to be elusive? If we are to achieve any semblance of perfection in love, like the rare round stones found sometimes on the beach, it’s only due to years of surviving the pounding waves and stormy seas. Now there’s something to ponder as we approach Valentine’s Day.
Text and images copyright Amy-Lynn Bell 2012